Hi. I’m pretty sad and lonely right now, and I feel like no one likes me. I think part of the reason why I feel like that is that I’m not telling everyone the truth. I’m hiding things from people again. I’ve done this before, and then I get better at being vulnerable, and then eventually I slip back into hiding. My secrets are piling up. I think the solution is to share them with the people I’m keeping them from, but for now, as an intermediate step, I’m going to share them here! (opposite action to shame!)
(note: mentions of eating struggles, self harm, suicidal thoughts, and masturbation.)
Things I’m keeping from my friend #1:
- It really hurts me that you guys are in a group chat with out me and made plans without including me. I wish I could be in the group chat too. I think you guys became closer friends without me during the time I was grieving my uncle and grandmother. I’m sorry I wasn’t part of your fun activities then, but I really couldn’t be.
- It also hurts me that you’ve been hiding this from me for months. I’ve known about your group chat! You know that I know about it! Just tell me, and I’ll be happy for you for having other friends and having fun!
- Do you even like me anymore?
- I wanted to tell you that I went to a peer support group for people with acquired brain injuries and people who know people with brain injuries, but I avoided it, and then other people we knew joined us for dinner, so I couldn’t say it in front of them.
- I’m not doing well. I’m doing better than I’ve been in the past, but that’s still not good. Eating is a real struggle for me, and I wish you’d take it more seriously and help me out.
Things I’m keeping from all my friends:
- I have self harmed in the past and been suicidal in the past, and currently I do think of suicide at times. This has been going on the entire time you’ve known me. I haven’t wanted to worry you, because I know you would worry if you knew.
Things I’m keeping from my therapist:
- I think I have seasonal depression! What should I do about this??
- I feel like I’m getting more depressed!
- I’m not sure if therapy is working anymore, or if this type of therapy is working anymore.
- There’s another bad way that I sometimes cope with things to escape for a bit. It’s masturbating, in a way that makes me hate myself afterwards and feel sick. I have never told anyone this! Please don’t hate me or think I’m horrible and weird! I wish I could stop but it’s harder than I thought!
- I have a blog! It’s a good thing and it helps me.
Things I’m keeping from my family:
- I wish I went home this weekend!
- I’m not sure I like what I’m majoring in anymore! Maybe I want to be a teacher instead??
- I went to the brain injury support group.
- I didn’t have a good day yesterday. I wasn’t too busy to call because I was having fun like I said. I was mindlessly watching tv instead of eating because I liked feeling lightheaded. I did go out eventually to spend time with friends, but I didn’t really have fun and kept almost crying.
- I was upset when we talked because I had just found out about friend #1’s group chat and plans without me.
- I know I did that whole ptsd treatment thing and was doing better, but maybe now I’m not anymore! I mean, ptsd is still better, but I’m depressed a lot. More than before.
2 thoughts on “Here are my current secrets”
Telling people about the brain injury peer support group sounds like it might be one of the easier ones to start off with.
I would say that masturbation can be a very healthy coping mechanism, and if it requires a little assistance from porn or toys, that’s totally okay too.
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Yeah, maybe… when I see my friend I’ll see if I can find a way to mention it. It’s an uncomfortable topic for me because it’s related to trauma. I did tell someone else about it when I went to it once last semester.
Thanks for commenting on that… I’m super uncomfortable with it if you couldn’t tell haha. I don’t think I’ve always done it in a healthy way, but I’m trying to make it healthier now and get more okay with the idea that it’s an okay thing to do.
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